How do I know if I’m in a toxic friendship or relationship?

Here are some signs to help you recognise if you’re in a toxic friendship or relationship:

  1. Constant Negativity

    • If your friend or partner regularly criticises, belittles, or makes you feel bad about yourself, it’s a red flag. Healthy relationships lift you up, not bring you down.

  2. One-Sided Effort

    • You might find yourself always putting in the effort—whether it’s initiating plans, listening, or supporting them—while they rarely do the same for you.

  3. Feeling Drained or Stressed

    • After spending time with them, do you feel emotionally exhausted or anxious? A good relationship should leave you feeling supported and happy, not drained.

  4. Manipulation and Control

    • Toxic friends or partners may try to control your decisions, guilt-trip you, or use manipulation to get what they want. This could include isolating you from other friends or family.

  5. Lack of Respect for Boundaries

    • If they constantly push you to do things you’re uncomfortable with or don’t respect your boundaries, this is a sign of an unhealthy dynamic.

  6. Jealousy or Possessiveness

    • Excessive jealousy or possessive behaviour can be harmful. In a healthy relationship, both people should have trust and space to maintain other friendships and interests.

  7. Dishonesty

    • If there’s a pattern of lies, broken promises, or hiding things from you, it can indicate a lack of trust and openness, which are essential for a healthy relationship.

  8. Feeling Unsupported

    • If they’re never there when you need support or they dismiss your problems, it could mean they’re not prioritising your well-being.

  9. Walking on Eggshells

    • Do you feel like you have to be careful with your words or actions to avoid upsetting them? This is a sign that the relationship may not be healthy.

  10. Loss of Self-Confidence

  • If you notice that your confidence or sense of self-worth is lower since being in this friendship or relationship, it’s important to evaluate if it’s becoming toxic.

If any of these signs sound familiar, it’s important to reflect on whether the friendship or relationship is benefiting you or causing harm. Talk to someone you trust for advice, and don’t be afraid to step back if the situation is affecting your mental health